The man I wanted to get married to

I was once called a religious fanatic, too saved, too uptight, and the list goes on. Somebody even told me I was looking for an angel when I answered  a question I was asked more than a year ago about the man I wanted to get married to. Let’s back it up a little… I met a man of God a couple of years ago and I bless God for Him because He made me understand something to do with marriage. I say this because there are some things you only realize when you live with your husband or wife... not before. Just to give you a clear picture of what I am talking about, here is a description of my future husband.

He has to be saved. The reason? We must share the same spirit and be heirs of the same kingdom (heaven). Also, the word of God tells me not to be unequally yoked. There is also something about a man who prays. This is because a husband is the spiritual authority/head of the wife and the house. He sets a certain spiritual order in the house and also serves as the wife’s spiritual cover in prayer. This is his God-given order and responsibility as a husband.

I have to be attracted to him physically. The reason? When God created us, he made us three in one just like Him, only that for us it is soul, spirit, and body, while for Him it is God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Therefore, if the guy is saved, we are connected spiritually, so our soul and bodies need to come to a point of connection as well. If I am attracted to him physically, then I will have no problem sharing a bed with him because the Word of God says that in marriage, my body is not my own anymore; it is my husband’s and his is mine, hence our flesh coming together to become one.

For my soul, this is where my mind is, my intellect, it is where I live, so it means we need to be in a position where we love being around each other and not tolerating each other. Apart from being my husband, he can be my friend as well, my confidant, my partner, someone who can stand by my side through it all, someone I will fight with but still can’t bear the thought of losing. Time may get hard, but I still want us to celebrate our anniversaries, and if for no other reason, celebrating me not killing you last year would do for me.

A man who prays means he is in constant communication with God, and therefore, if he is in a relationship with God, then he will definitely know how to love me because he is subject to God and I am subject to him. I will support him in his vision and dreams, just as I know he would support me in mine. We would work together to make our marriage work and to make a home for our children, because the Bible says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and gets favor from the Lord." I want to be his good thing, and to bring him that favor which is from the Lord.